Sometimes a stranger's words can help us heal. Here is one of our favorite poems to help process grieve and bring comfort.
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand and my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.
Mary Frye, American Poet (1904-2004)
Is Pre-Planning the Right Option for You?
Thinking about and discussing funeral arrangements in advance with your loved ones can be uncomfortable and often times many people do not have the conversation for that very reason. But there are a number of things to consider when you are deciding if now is the time to move forward with pre-planning your funeral. Here are a few:
Ease the burden on your family. Pre-planning helps remove the burden of decision making at times of crisis. Letting your loved ones know your wishes in advance will help ease tensions and stress for all involved. A death in the family involves a great deal of decision making, paperwork and compromises among families. Having these choices already made makes things easier for everyone left behind.
Assume the financial responsibility. Planning ahead allows you to assume the financial costs of your funeral. This works as an advantage in many ways. It takes the financial burden off your family and also sets the perimeters of your burial and services, which can alleviate disagreements among family members. Additionally, pre-planning allows you to set the pricing of your funeral arrangements now, with no future increase in pricing.
Specify how you want your remains to be managed. Pre-planning allows you to determine preferences for the disposition of your remains and the nature of your funeral services. Working with your funeral planner, you can set the tone, choose the music, the epitaph on your headstone and all of the fine details. You may opt for no services. Pre-planned arrangements allow you to set the guidelines for your family to follow.
Have your affairs in order at the end of your life. Many of us are self-reliant in life and choose to be so at the end of our life, by assuring that our funeral arrangements do not fall onto the shoulders of someone else. Pre-planning and pre-paying for your funeral arrangements will make your passing easier on those you love. It is a fine way to leave a lasting show of your love.
Contact us now to set up an appointment with one of our Funeral Pre-Planning Associates.