If you have lost a loved one this year, especially in the recent past, the start of the New Year may be the perfect beginning to make some changes that will help you manage your grief as the months progress. Here are a dozen suggestions for New Year's Resolutions that may bring you comfort as you move forward with your life and your memories.
1. Be honest with how you feel, not only with others, but with yourself.
2. Speak freely, your loved one's name.
3. Live in a way that your loved one would have wanted you to.
4. Support someone else.
5. Seek professional help and learn about the process of grief.
6. Be open to happiness and let go of guilt when you feel joyful or are enjoying life (this one is hard).
7. Give away belongings that only increase your grief.
8. Journal on a regular basis or blog if you feel like sharing your thoughts with others.
9. Donate your time or financial support to a cause that was important to your loved one.
10. Read more, find a hobby, walk more, learn something new.
11. Get more sleep
12. Speak your mind and don't feel like you have to be strong. Don't be afraid to reach out to someone else.
It's a New Year, a new beginning, resolve to make it the best it can be.
The holidays and grief are an unwelcome pairing. There is no time that is easy to grieve, but for a season filled with reunions of family and friends, songs of joy and celebration, remembering our loved ones and the fact that they are not here to share these times with us, can be unbearable. There are plenty of good resources to help you through these weeks, however, one suggestion in all we've read stands out as a very good idea that has the potential of healing for more than just the season. The idea is to start a new tradition in honor of those we have lost. Traditions are about family, and friends. They are reoccurring events or deeds that bind us together with purpose and memories. By changing the focus of the way you celebrate the season, you can move in a new direction based on what may have been important to your loved one. You can still enjoy the meaning of the season and join it with the loving memories you have of those who have passed. So think hard about what they might want as a new tradition for celebration. Will it be something to make you laugh, a generous gift to a favorite charity, time spent on a cause that was important to them? Consider something that will allow you to spend time with the people you love, something that will make you feel connected. Sharing your talents and time can lift your spirit and bring your family together. The options are endless and can be inspiring and will give your tradition a new sense of meaning. The focus placed on something new that blends memories of the past can be healing in itself. This season, try not to hold in your grief, but shout out the love and joy you had with the loved one you lost - for all to remember and treasure this holiday season and for many to come.