Holidays that are strongly promoted by societal expectations, such as Valentines Day, Mother's Day and Father's Day, can often bring on a myriad of emotions, not always happy. People who have experienced loss and are doing their best to deal with their grief can be hit hard by commentaries on social media and celebrations that may no longer include them. How can you get through this day, which comes around every year? Writer Allison Micco, in her 2016 article "How to Celebrate Father's Day when You're Grieving the Loss of Your Dad" for the Huffington Post, had this to say.
"One of the most healing actions we can take as we approach this day is to be willing to release the reality in which our dominant story is one of loss. Yes, my father is no longer here in the physical form, but if I attach myself to that reality it seems almost impossible to find any sense of joy in the day." Micco decided to change how she approached Father's Day.
She offers several suggestions including seeking out other family members who can offer support throughout the day. Also, starting the day with a time of remembrance of your father will begin the holiday in the right state of mind, focusing on treasured memories rather than the pain of loss. "When we really look at it, Father's Day is an important reminder of the power and beauty of keeping the ones we love alive in our hearts forever," writes Micco.
We think that is the true spirit of Father's Day and hope you can celebrate this day whether or not your father has passed on or can share the day with you.
For Micco's complete article, click here.