Part Two in our series of suggested guidelines to help someone you love who is grieving.
Listen and don't try to fix things. - When you listen, which is so important, try really hard to do just that - listen. Don't try to "bandaid" all the worries and woes, as you can't. The best remedy is a willing ear.
Show tender care and encouragement. - Those who grieve will be of heavy heart for a long while. You need to, if possible, be there for the long journey. Caring, encouraging and letting them know you are there beside them is one of the best gifts you can give.
Share your own memories of their loved one. - Grieving will bring back a flood of memories, ones that may be hard to suppress and become all consuming. Offering your own stories of those who have passed can shift direction and show your friend that the individual will not be forgotten.
Realize that companioning grief takes its toll. - Guiding and helping someone you love through the grieving process is emotionally draining. It steals your energy and puts your emotions in a constant low state as well, especially if you also knew the person who passed. Be sure you keep yourself emotionally and physically healthy to remain strong in support of your family and friends who are grieving.
Guidelines and tips are helpful, but are no panacea for solving or quickening someone's grief. Time, care, compassion and love are the best tools to hold close through this difficult time. Content for this article was taken from My Careletter and an article written by Reverend Mary Bredlau.