What Can I say?
What is the right thing to do to provide solace to those who are grieving? What is the right thing to say? How much should you try to communicate? Are there ways to facilitate healing? Over the next few months, we'll be sharing guidelines set forth in a publication entitled My CareLetter™ which is a compilation of time proven advice for those who are experiencing loss. We hope that this information will be helpful in someway when grief touches your life. If you would like to be receive a copy of My Careletter™ on a regular basis, please contact us by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org.
What Can I Say: In a two part post, we will try to address ways to be supportive of those who are grieving. One of the most important things is to understand the circumstances around the loss. Mourning the loss of an elderly relative who had been ill for quite some time is quite different than the sudden loss of a young life. Being there for those who are grieving is paramount, but knowing what to say can be challenging. We'll start in this part with what not to say.
Don't Try to Lessen The Loss With Easy Answers
"She isn't hurting anymore," "It must have been his time," and "Things always work out for the best" are remarks that are seldom helpful. It's more important for the bereaved to feel your presence that to hear anything you might say. Remember, there are no ready phrases which will take away the pain of loss.
Excerpts from My Careletter ™