Why Preplanning Your Funeral Is a Gift to Your Future Self (and Your Family)

Owner Becky Areias shares a book with a customer at the desk in the main arrangement room.

Thinking ahead about your own funeral may feel strange, especially if you’re still years away from needing it. But preplanning isn’t about expecting the worst — it’s about shaping the story of your life and protecting the people you love.

Most people imagine funeral preplanning as something reserved for their grandparents. But the truth is, your 40s, 50s, and early 60s are an ideal season to take charge of how you’ll be remembered — and to make sure your family isn’t left guessing about your wishes. Preplanning isn’t about dwelling on loss; it’s about living intentionally and creating ease for the people you love.

Here are some reasons to consider preplanning while you’re still fully in charge of your choices.

Lift an Invisible Weight from Your Family: One of the biggest gifts you can give your loved ones is peace of mind. When people are grieving, decisions about burial or cremation, details of a memorial service such as music or readings, or who to deliver a eulogy can be difficult. By making those choices in advance, you give them freedom to focus on supporting each other — not second-guessing what you would have wanted.

Tell Your Story Your Way:A funeral or celebration of life is a way to tell the story of your life. Preplanning lets you decide how you want to be remembered, in what way, what setting and on your terms. Thinking about these details now means your service will reflect who you truly are.

Strengthen Communication With Loved Ones: Although preplanning does let you direct the focus of your funeral or memorial, the process can be a good time to discuss your thoughts with your family. Talking openly about preplanning is an invitation to share stories, values, and even humor about how you want to be remembered. Preplanning lets you research meaningful options — not just what’s convenient at the time.

Keep Costs Predictable: Making choices in advance helps you lock in current prices and set up payment options, avoiding the financial surprises that often accompany last-minute arrangements.

Preplanning your funeral in midlife is about more than logistics. It’s an act of love, creativity, and foresight. By deciding how you want to be remembered — and putting those wishes in writing — you give your family a profound gift: the space to celebrate you without worry or doubt. 

Hilgenfeld Mortuary’s staff is trained to guide you through the preplanning process so all aspects are covered. Contact us for a free consultation.