Carol Van Ahlers

In the weeks following a death, families often find themselves managing practical matters while still grieving. This can feel exhausting, which is why understanding what typically needs attention, and when things need to be done, can help reduce stress. One of the first longer-term responsibilities is notifying organizations and institutions. This may include employers, insurance […]

When a loved one dies, it can be difficult to think clearly—yet important decisions and tasks often need to be handled right away. While every situation is different, understanding the first steps can help ease some of the uncertainty during a very emotional time. One of the first things that must happen is an official

The holidays have a way of illuminating what—and who—is missing. Traditions feel different, familiar songs suddenly ache, and even joyful gatherings can carry an undercurrent of longing. In the quiet moments, it’s easy for our attention to settle on what has been lost. But grief has another companion we don’t always notice: love. And love

The holidays often arrive with a script — bright lights, cheerful gatherings, and traditions meant to feel joyful. But when you’ve lost someone dear, those familiar rituals can feel like they belong to another life, another you. This year, there may be little energy for the old script. That’s okay. Think of this season as

Thanksgiving often brings families together around tables filled with food, stories, and laughter. But when someone we love is missing, that same table can feel achingly incomplete. The empty chair — once filled by a familiar face — becomes a powerful reminder of what was and what will always matter. This year, rather than turning

Though often mistaken for a “Day of the Dead” celebration of ghosts or fright, Día de Muertos is, at its heart, a profoundly spiritual tradition—one rooted in love, memory, and faith. The holiday actually spans two days, November 1 and 2. The first day honors deceased children and is known as Día los Inocentes or

Since 1927, Hilgenfeld Mortuary has stood as a cornerstone of care and compassion in Anaheim. Located on the same Anaheim street since opening nearly a century ago—Hilgenfeld Mortuary is more than a business; it is a part of the city’s story. Beyond dedication to their profession, the Hilgenfeld family has long believed that being a good

Thinking ahead about your own funeral may feel strange, especially if you’re still years away from needing it. But preplanning isn’t about expecting the worst — it’s about shaping the story of your life and protecting the people you love. Most people imagine funeral preplanning as something reserved for their grandparents. But the truth is,

Choosing charitable giving as a way to honor a loved one is a beautiful gesture. Still, many families wonder how to begin, what options are available, and how to make the process meaningful. Below, we answer some of the most common questions about memorial giving. How do I set up a memorial donation? In many