Carol Van Ahlers

With the holidays underway and the end of the year approaching, stress levels for most of us are rising. It’s practically unavoidable. As people try to manage their everyday lives into a new schedule that involves decorating, baking, shopping, family visits, travels, parties and get-togethers, something is going to slip. Often, it is our patience

It takes a little advanced planning to be there for people you know who are managing grief during this season of joy. You can play an important role in helping them through the weeks of celebrations and festivities. Here are some ideas to help you do just that: Rather than giving presents, give your presence.

We can’t think of a day that sends a better message. Kindness is defined as “the quality of being friendly, generous and courteous. Wow, what a great concept, kindness! Some people say that being kind can be seen as a sign of weakness, letting others take advantage of acts of generosity or friendliness. Actually, being

Being a fourth-generation owner of a family business carries with it a great sense of pride as well as obligations. Although there are many challenges that come with business ownership, Becky Areias, president of Hilgenfeld Mortuary, has always felt confident running the family business in the spirit that it was founded by her great-grandfather. This

Hilgenfeld Mortuary Celebrates 95 Years This month marks our 95th anniversary; it is just short of a century that we have been here to serve families in our community during some of the most difficult times of their lives. We could not be prouder. What my great-grandfather, Reverend Samuel Hilgenfeld, started in October 1927, has

“Autumn shows how beautiful it is to let things go.” …Unknown The Autumn Equinox is September 22 and brings to mind that the changes of the seasons can be an important cycle in our lives. Many ancient cultures believed that this seasonal cycle brought forth by nature conveys a deeper meaning for humanity Autumn is

There are a few miscellaneous items to finish up before your memorial service is well and truly planned. Printed programs help attendees follow along and also can include additional information that you want to share. Most funeral homes can provide programs and will cover these details when you first meet with them to make arrangements.

If your loved one had pre-planned his or her service, this part is easy. Advanced planning provides an outline to design the components of a memorial service ranging from selecting the songs or readings to suggesting an invitation list. If you don’t have that road map to follow, best to always keep in mind the

There are no right or wrong answers to this question. When it comes down to it, the family should select the person that feels right for them. The officiant is the leader of the service, setting the tone and directing the program. Duties often include delivering the eulogy, introducing the hymns, readings or prayers and

Over the next several weeks, we will be presenting a blog series focusing on planning a memorial service. Hilgenfeld Mortuary’s knowledgeable staff are here to guide your family every step of the way as you face numerous decisions on how best to memorialize your loved one. Each blog will provide insight on a certain aspect